' Love Thyself.. '

Just yesterday while at the mall I observed a mature woman of perhaps 45-50 years old,trotting along in thick make-up and high heels, with whom I assume was her husband and teenage son.

From behind,she looked like a teenager herself,in fact,her hips were probably only as wide as a ten year olds might be. She had dyed her long hair as blond as she could,Jeez...it was almost white.

As she turned round,I saw her face....and it was so haggard and prematurely aged,I was shocked by its appearance. However,she was dressed to kill in a low cut shirt and tight jeans...and was prancing around the store as if she were a highly paid model on the catwalk!!

I tell you,the woman didnt even have any butt in her jeans, but I guess she believes,as do millions of other people,that one can NEVER be too Blonde or too Thin! Go figure....

Tragically, I see the same thing almost every day. Women and young teenage girls starved into skinniness...some of them hunched over as they walk along, most of them looking haggard and tired and worn out. Whats the actual point to all this self abuse ??

Much has been written relating to the problems associated with starving ones body into a state of skinniness.There is surely no way people can plead ignorance of how to live in a healthy,well-balanced way.

Still,the Media, movies..and also ones friends ,partners and family members, play a huge role in keeping the 'Skinny is Beautiful' myth alive.

I call it a myth...for indeed thats what it is. One doesnt need to fit someone elses idea of 'gorgeous' to be happy,well-balanced and loved .... it all begins with having an idea of your own voice, your own strengths and knowing that starving,bingeing and playing rollercoaster with your weight for any length of time will have its own repurcussions.People are literally so scared to put on a few pounds...they would rather be dead than be deemed overweight.

Its a shame that the highly paid models are basically sacks of skin and bones.As role models for the youth they have a lot to answer for.The sad thing about the lifestyles of some Supermodels is the fact that they wont get any high paying assignments if they dont conform to a certain body weight.

Its also a shame that even though they are amongst the highest paid women on earth,they probably cant even have a relaxed meal and a few drinks with friends ... without having an anxiety attack lest they put on a centimetre or two.Which is why some of them have to resort to vomiting it all up afterwards, which totally defies logic! !

And the biggest shame of all is that women, models, females, mothers and daughters WORLDWIDE put up with this travesty. They admire the models and actresses who are ultra skinny and try desperatly to follow in their footsteps, forcing and starving their bodies into a submission that just isnt natural.

Open your eyes, Ladies..stop with the 'Sheep Mentality'

When you starve your body,you may attain the skinny looks you desire,but ask yourself who you are doing it for!

If its to please a moaning,nitpicking partner or friend, then you seriously need to take a good long look at your life and get rid of those people who have too much power over you.You might gain a skinny body by starving and binge dieting,but unless you keep on dieting and taking those pills,the weight is going to return as soon as it gets a chance.You may even end up fatter than before.

A friend of mine told me that her husband swore he would leave her if she ever put on weight.He didnt encourage her to excercise nor did he care how she remained skinny...he just didnt want any of his buddies to see him with a fat chick.

She was so scared of losing the 'Love of her Life' that she was secretly starving herself to achieve HIS ideals. Even though she now has 2 children,he still expects her to keep the body of a teenager.That sucks, man. The other fact that boggles my mind was that he himself is Grossly overweight and has never done anything to lose weight !

Choices:

Regular excercise and healthy eating habits will allow for gradual weight loss while toning your muscles ...and if these habits become ingrained you will most likely be assured of a body that looks great and can bounce back from illness and over-work, no matter what your age may be.That to me is the better option.

A toned and beautiful body can literally take ones breath away..while an anorexic body looks in need of a good meal and some TLC.

Women should decide and make choices for themselves..if you dont,you may end up living your life for someone else , which can be a bad thing.

Being true to ourselves is the very best goal to reach for. Without caring for ourselves first,deeply and honestly, and treasuring our mental and physical health , what lessons will we pass on to the next generation... both males and females??

Expand your mind with some further reading on this subject

Peace out,
Jesse :)




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Cha-Cha-Cha-Changes...

I believe in changes.I know they hold all manner of growth,learning and are really as good as that holiday you never got to take!! Along with my new short haircut,I am getting into the Spirit of changing at a phenomenal rate.At all times we are all doing it,some faster or slower than others.But change we must :)

I have come to the conclusion that one goes through many stages while on this blogging journey ! I for one cant seem to keep count of the levels I am passing through: from that pathetic Newbie who knew nothing to this Long-Time Blogger who still knows Nothing. Ok,correct that...I do know more than I give myself credit for.Or perhaps I just think I do..

I have learnt so much about fixing my pc,oh yeahhhhhhhh. That must come with the Home Blogging territory.I have also learnt to only write new posts when I REALLY feel up to it...otherwise my heart and soul just arent in it.I am learning to just do my own thaing !!

Another change I am looking at is the actual look of my blog .

I was thinking of deleting this blog and starting over,as I am getting tired of the way it looks.But after reading a post by Ed Philly over at White-Boy Style...I was inspired and decided there is no need to delete ANYTHING.I am simply going to give my blog a new scheme, courtesy of blogger.com.As Ed Philly reminded me,blogging means doing just whatever you want with your blog.And happily, as I have a Blogger blog,I can change the style and color with ease.

Ed Philly also wrote about how boring blogs can become,with the same old look month after month.I agree...I myself prefer freshness...and with that in mind,its time for an overhaul...

How long have YOU had your blog??? Is it stale and boring? If so,make those changes.
You may indeed love them..as for me,from now on,this Blogger is growing up!!! And it feels so awesome to be Free from restraining myself...

Lets get real,Guys.We all have unique personalities.They should truly shine through on our blogs.Now lets see Ed Philly beat this groovy Pink mode !! :)

Huggles to All
Jesse



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Computers...You Gotta Love them,RIGHT ??

Its School Vacation,and my darling 7 year old CASSIE IS BEING sPOILED TO THE mAX !!! :)
All the chocolates and easter eggs,swimming,playing,dvd's.. staying up later than usual and having so much fun all round,it makes me wish I was a child again....Kind of ! Yah, Reallly ! :)

OK..its been SUCH a long while since I last posted to my blog...and its not because I became tired of it,or decided to quit. Rather,I was once again back in the thick of it,having one pc problem after another, and one too many.

What happened was I tried out a free Linux program which I received with a pc magazine.The disc proclaimed that one could run this Linux while also having windows installed (as a duel boot sort of thing).That wasnt the case though,as the stupid Linux program changed my fat 32 drive into a linux drive and I simply couldnt load up windows.

This specific Linux program also didnt have an uninstall feature either,which was really baffling to me. I have tried out other Linux programs before,so its not like I have no clue about them. Still, this one was totally weird..must have been a poorly written one,guess you get that everywhere!

Anyway,I had to format my pc drive back into fat32 and reload windows,which in an ideal world should have taken an hour or 2,but sad to say,the cd which contained all my drivers had cracked somehow...yes, once again !!!!!!!!!!

So off I went to the local internet cafe to download them,only to be told that the interet cafe hadnt had internet facilities for a whole week !! Jeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzz...................thats what you get for living in a dump like South Africa.

I then had an old cd of mine cleaned and luckily it contained drivers enough to get me online somehow,and from their on I had to get hold of the other drivers one by one online from my pc. Now,the lesson I learnt this time is that if your PC is getting old and weird,hey, its time to get a new one.Also,make so many copies and back-ups...more than you think you might need,and keep them safely and neatly in a place oF extreme safety...that way some of your stuff will be available whenever emergency strikes !

I also learnt that pc's pack when they feel like it..so be prepared.Its hell when they do that that though.

I missed being online...and sitting looking at a dead pc is totally soul destroying.I knew eventually it would be up and running though...but things were just moving too slowly for my liking.Sorry to anyone who left comments that I never replied to,I intend to get my hand on that as soon as possible..hey,I have almost 2000 emails backed up in my inbox which I must clear out ( mostly spam ),so I hope you can be lenient with me just a little while longer.
Jesse

PS... I Also hope that your day is going totally great over there,if not,take control and make it shine :)

The Cutest Friday Post Ever ...

No Words Needed, hope your Friday is Special :)


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